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Created to Be His Help Meet: Discover How God Can Make Your Marriage Glorious | 
 enlarge | Author: Debi Pearl
Publisher: No Greater Joy Ministries
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  229 reviews
Sales Rank: 2722
Media: Paperback
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Pages: 297
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Dimensions (in): 8.8 x 6.9 x 0.8
ISBN: 1892112604
Dewey Decimal Number: 248.8435
EAN: 9781892112606
ASIN: 1892112604
Publication Date: December 1, 2004
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Somewhere over the passing years and changing culture, women have lost their way. This book was written to lead them bck home. Regardless of how you began your marriage or how dark and lonely the path that has brought you to where you are now.
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 I have a love/hate feeling for this book. October 12, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
Pros: The things I liked about the book and have put into practice are the ideas on submission, honoring my husband, being joyful, understanding that my husband is a "Mr. Steady" and learning how I can support him. I like the phrase happiness does not always equal holiness. I also learned that some of my nagging (even which may be true or justified) isn't the way to win over my husband. Only God has power to change someone else. I can change myself and be a positive role model for my husband, and God willing, will help change him into the man God wants him to be. I agree that our culture has led us toward radical feminism rather than to authentic feminism.
Cons: I don't doubt the goodwill of the Pearls, but the approach isn't as "inspiring" as it could be. God's way is the best, but I'm not sure this is it. This is a personal interpretation from a couple who either made the scriptures fit what they think the Bible is saying, or who are taking the scriptures so literally, that it misses the point of the true message behind the passage. I was shocked that the author took biblical scripture and twisted it to fit what she personally believed was true. I had to go back and reread it just to be sure I wasn't halucinating. The book states women exist for him and all his needs alone. Women are told to ignore their hopes and dreams (especially if you have a Mr. Command or Mr Visionary husband). Women are 100% to blame for all of the problems including porn, infidelity, divorce, and abuse. Wives are to wear dresses and grow long hair, unless of course you get permission to get it cut. I was utterly shocked that she told battered women to stay with their husbands. Can you imagine your children watching you get beaten by their dad and learning something positive from that?
The Pearls are being hypocritical and less than compassionate to the people who write in for advice. A poor wife at her wits end is treated like a dummy.
If you must, read the book with full knowledge of what the reviews say, and take the few pieces that are worthwhile, or select another book that is equally honest and upfront, but more encouraging and accurate. Other reviews are correct when they say: sift, sift, sift!
 A Powerful Book October 6, 2008
This book is a tough-love teaching that draws from her own experience and the Bible, and I have always loved it. But you have to read it, as with ALL books Christian or otherwise, with discernment. The Bible is the only infallible book in this world. All others are flawed, even ones that are based on the Bible, because even saved human beings are still only in the process of becoming perfect - they're not there yet. It is also important to keep the perspective that marriage is 100/100, not 50/50. This book is for women...so it talks about how a bad marriage is 100% the wife's fault. It talks about everything the WIFE can do, in her role, for a marriage. Why would it talk about what the husband can do? You can't control anyone else but yourself in life. I mean, who will you answer for at judgment day - your husband? God won't say "Oh, your husband was evil, so it's okay that you were too." A book for husbands should be equally bold about how a bad marriage is 100% the man's fault, and talk only about what HE can do. That principle is the most powerful one I have taken away from this book.
In short, this is a powerful book with a lot of scriptural truth and a lot of plain old advice from experience. I get a lot of good advice from my grandma that is very similar - tough-love, bold, unashamed, focused on the wife's part of the blame (aka, the wife's role...hint hint), and based on years of experience. With my grandma and this book and any other book and any other person, you have to use discernment. Let the Holy Spirit show you what is good and what is flawed.
But overall, this book has a lot of good - and even the flaws gave me opportunities to think about why each opinion was wrong and to search out God's opinion on the matter.
 must read for all wives September 13, 2008
0 out of 2 found this review helpful
Debi Pearl is direct and opinionated, but has some GREAT things to share. I have a great marriage, and still found lots to learn.
 Helpmeet, not helpful for me. September 2, 2008
8 out of 8 found this review helpful
First, I have to say that some very well-intentioned women study this book and live by it and I have no condemnation for them. However, when I went through it and started asking my husband questions about it, he told me to stop reading it and throw it away even though his well-intentioned mother gave it to me. I believe that his advice was demonstrating Christ's love to me, freeing me from the false guilt this book incites.
While there are always benefits to godly humility and servanthood, the author goes too far in prescribing exactly what fits into her view of godliness. Like the pharasees of old, she sets up rules for godly marriage that are nowhere in scripture. The book condemns women who teach at all as having the spirit of "Jezebel" and gives the overall impression that the only purpose women serve is for their husbands' wishes and goals and that any other pursuit is ungodly.
If you are having marital problems, this book is like prescription medication, it may do you some good but it could cause more harm than good in the long run. I recommend Ken Nair's books, "Discovering the Mind of a Woman" and "Discovering the Heart of a Man." Remember, your marriage takes two. Contrary to this book, it is right to have reasonable expectations of your husband to help him become more like Christ. Men, Ken Nair's books will rock your world!
Every married woman must read!! September 1, 2008
0 out of 5 found this review helpful
I am so thankful that my sister-in-law pushed this book on me when I was determined I was going to divorce my husband. After nearly 10 years of marriage I now finally get it! Through this book, God, prayers of many and myself, I now have a reformed marriage and to me that is a miracle! I actually have the husband I always wanted and I didn't have to change him. This book is basic, bold and truly a no brainer once you have read it, if you know the Bible anyway. We need to get this wife/marriage thing down so we can pass this on to our children and so we can see less foolish failed marriages. I challenge you to read this book and keep it to reference and when you order it, order at least one more to pass on to someone you know who claims to be in an unhappy marriage.
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